Mistakes Men Make: Part II

The following is a continuation of yesterdays list of mistakes men general make in the dating world. A list I acquired from this website.

6. Not "Getting" How Attraction works For Women.

What Does This Mean?: Women are not as conventionally shallow as men are.

- First off I would like to draw attention to all of the improperly placed quotations marks implemented in the titles of these mistakes. How do they change how you read the title in any way? Are they implying something? Are they quoting someone? There are superficial women and superficial men. The article implies that the Woody Allen syndrome applies to anyone with two X chromosomes.

7. Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks.

What does this Mean?: Women are more attracted to a man's personality than his looks or money.

- These mistakes seem to be getting a little redundant. Some people find good looks and money an attractive quality in a person. I would have to say that there are plenty of women that would give up their husbands for a chance with George Clooney.

8. Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women.

What does this mean?: Men let women walk all over them. Women hate it.

- I don't really understand the whole power dynamic. A real relationship takes agreement and sacrifices. Did one of the Wonder Twins have two rings? No. They each had a ring and they each had something to bring to the table. Also, I would like to add that some women do like it when they have complete control over the relationship. I also feel like this power struggle stuff doesn't happen all that often.

9. Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women.

What does that mean?: Women know exactly what men are thinking at all times. If you don't anticipate every move you make, you will be lost.

- Women get nervous and confused just like men do. The only difference is the pressure is often on the man to make the first move. That is just the dichotomy. With a little bit of confidence (or, if you don't have any, you can use alcohol as a substitute) and intuition everything should be fine. If you're not sure, try dropping little hints maybe.

10. Not Getting Help.

What does that mean?: If you buy the author's book and subscribe to his newsletter, you too can date models, actresses, or even the girl next door.

- The biggest mistake a man can make is to not buy a self help book? And this coming from the author of said book. The thing that intrigues me about this is that the website exists and I assume that there are people will pay any amount of money to become someone else. A better version of themselves. Someone that can get the girl he wants even if he is poor and ugly. Be confident, be comfortable, be yourself. If she's interested and you're interested, something will probably happen.


Finding your better half is like shopping for a pair of shoes (and I apologize for sounding like Carrie Bradshaw). You want comfort and looks. You would like something reasonable. If it fits, it fits. For the last 6 years I have been buying the same pair of Pumas over and over again. I don't know if that means anything.

I'm probably going to wrap up the evening by watching the movie Funny Games, which is very un-Valentines day but since when do holidays have to feel like holidays? The best days are the ones that surprise you (and the worst days too, come to think of it).



If this was an event in the summer Olympics, I would most definitely tune in.

Speak easy,
Neil

Mistakes Men Make: Part I

This is an advertisement that I came across while I was on Facebook.


The image links you to this website. In honor of Valentine's Day, I thought I would go through the website's list of "dangerous mistakes" that men make when pursuing the ladies.

1. Being Too Much of a "Nice Guy"

What does that mean?: Being nice doesn't make a women choose you because when a guy is nice, he does not make them feel a gut level attraction.

- I think that most people confuse being nice with having a lack of confidence. For the most part, people are attracted to people that display a certain level of confidence. I am not specifically talking about someone with an A personality, but someone that is comfortable enough in their own skin. On the topic of "nice", well...there is absolutely a variety of different people with a variety of different tastes and preferences. Some women are incredibly attracted to nice guys or fat guys or old guys or guys with glasses or guys with piercings.

2. Trying To "Convince Her to Like You".

What does that mean?: You can't convince a girl to like you.

- I completely agree with this sentiment, but I do think that people can change their opinions on an individual. You can't really convince someone to feel a certain way, but you can just be yourself and maybe, over time, the opposite sex will warm up to you. Like everything else, friendships and relationships are a process. Humans latch on to the idea of putting things in boxes. The best way to grow something is organically. I may be completely wrong though. I read an article the other day that said that it is completely conceivable that humans may be able to live forever by inserting their mind into a computer data base (something that may happen in my lifetime).

3. Looking To Her For Approval or Permission

What does that mean?: Women hate kiss ups.

- This just reminds me of the aforementioned mistake that referenced guys that act "too nice". Just don't "act". If you put on some sort of weird persona around her and she actually does latch on to that in a favorable manner, how long can you really keep that up? If you are around someone long enough you will inevitably reveal to them who you really are. The person that you start a relationship with is almost never the person of whom you end that relationship.

4. Trying to "Buy" Her Affection With Food and Gifts.

What does that mean?: Women consider spending too much money on them a form of manipulation or compensation.

- It's not a bad idea to spend some money on a date as long as you don't do it too much or too often.

5. Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship.

What does that mean?: Attractive women are a rare species that get hit on a lot and are very experienced (according to the text). Telling an attractive women you like them is a huge turn off.

- This harks back to what I mentioned before, about how all people are different and that not everyone thinks or acts the same way. If you want to tell someone how you feel, that's great. Whatever. If you are in a relationship with them and they can't handle it, that's their problem. Don't come on too strong, but don't keep everything bottled up just because the internet tells you this is the best way to score unattainable women.



Today I started working in the mail room. The guy that trained me described the job as "something a monkey could do". It's a fairly easy position.

Speak easy,
Neil